There probably needs to be a tweak. Maybe a "close game" or "late inning" tweak. I'm sure your stupid baserunners are sometimes safe in stupid situations but you don't notice because, well, they're safe. But, if the situation(s) like you describe can be removed from "down 1 in the 8th", it would likely be less annoying to you.
If you think he'd be "mortified", and you don't despise him, you should say something. Because someone who does despise him will. And it won't be discreet or pleasant. As to how to go about it, I might steal from headpirate. Something along the lines of "I'm not sure if someone has got into your account but there have been some NSFW pics posted on your page." Don't tell him it's gay porn because, if he's doing at as a way of coming out, he'll probably think you're a judgemental dick. But, if he thinks you're just saying it's porn, maybe not so much.
No, you cannot. But I stole some of your post.